A book, a system, and a community for high-performing parents who want to break the reactive cycle — without suppressing who they are.
You yell because your nervous system gets there before your wisdom does. The back-talk, the tantrum, the spilled cereal — those are the surface. What's underneath is the work no one is talking about.
High-performing parents know better. They've read the books, done the therapy, understand the research. And they still lose it. Not because the knowledge is wrong — because knowledge without regulation doesn't hold under pressure.
The gap between knowing better and doing better is not a character flaw. It's a body that got there first.
"Most parents who complete the Trigger Inventory find that 2 or 3 underground triggers account for 80% of their yelling. Things like physical depletion. Feeling invisible. Time pressure. The echoes of how they were raised."
— Tyge Aleksander
The Connected Parent draws from three evidence-based programs — PCIT, Incredible Years, and Triple P — and pairs each skill with a Conscious Parenting Anchor: the inner work that makes the outer skill actually hold.
Most parenting books teach you what to do. This one teaches you what to do and who to be while you're doing it. Because a skill used from depletion or unresolved anger produces a different outcome than the same skill used from regulated presence.
I'm a leadership coach of more than ten years and a certified parent coach and parent educator. I wrote The Connected Parent because I needed it myself — and because every parent I've worked with deserves a system that takes the inner work as seriously as the outer skills.
I was a single parent caught between two guilts — guilty at work for what I wasn't giving my kids, guilty at home for the work I wasn't doing. That experience, combined with formal certification and more than a decade inside executive coaching, produced a framework I've spent years testing with real families under real pressure.
The pattern I kept seeing in coaching rooms: work had become the hiding place. High-performers who were brilliant at managing complexity at work, completely ambushed at home by a seven-year-old. Not because they were bad parents. Because nobody had given them a system that worked under pressure.
What you do with your child matters. But the place you're doing it from matters more.
— TygeWhen something is worth saying, I'll send it. New frameworks, research I'm thinking about, honest notes from the work. Nothing scheduled. Nothing performative.
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